The more I read, learn and live, the greater the realisation that our worlds are not controlled by conscious thought as the majority believe. This belief leads to many of the frustrations and anxieties in life. As we fumble around, in a world that is full of temptation we are constantly exposed to this fact.
Smoking and alcohol kills, you are what we eat, too little exercise and you succumb to disease. The knowledge is there. We know what’s good for us and what’s not. This knowledge is growing by the day as is our lack of ability to heed these warnings.
Why can’t we resist the cake, the beer, the liaison, the bet?
In the good old days, life was simpler you could eat, drink and smoke what you wanted. No one had a clue. Of course certain vices were and have always been off limits. But on the whole worrying about heart disease was not a concern.
The point is that we are not any better or any worse at avoiding these vices. We just have a lot more temptation and awareness of those things that are bad for us. Each time we slip up and eat the cake or drink the beer, we beat ourselves up for having the willpower of a gnat. Aristotle nailed this 2000 years ago when he said:
‘We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit’
Conscious thought control’s only 10% of decision making. For every ten times you tell yourself not to drink alcohol, without any habit replacement, 9 of those will result in you drinking. This drives us crazy, destroys all confidence in our willpower and resigns us to the false belief that we have a problem.
This creates an internal label: I am drinker, smoker, womaniser…
BUT VERY OFTEN YOU ARE NOT:
Those willpower heroes that you admire are not using self-control to lead these amazing lives. They just have better habits. Steven Pressfield put this beautifully:
‘The difference between an amateur and a professional is in their habits. An amateur has amateur habits. A professional has professional habits. We can never free ourselves from habit. But we can replace bad habits with good ones.’
Your subconscious is driving the bus not you. If conscious thought is only responsible for 10% of your decisions then your subconscious routines are running the show.
The key understanding here is that trying to use conscious willpower to control your world, will end in failure and frustration. Don’t beat yourself up for this, it’s simply the way you have been programmed.
For those of you who are plagued by bad habits, it’s your operating system that needs an update not the memory. This upgrade requires conscious effort to program your subconscious routines. We are here to tell you, that YOU like those heroes you admire, are 100% capable of creating massive positive change in your life, through positive habit replacement.
It is wonderfully liberating to realise that it’s not you, you are not broken, your system is simply out of date. Learning to build healthy habits is the system upgrade required and OneYearNoBeer can show you how.
It is our habits and routines that create our worlds, not our conscious decisions as we once thought. Change your habits, change your life.